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One Step at a Time

Updated: Jan 15, 2022

I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed.

My brilliant millennial web designer/social media coach is out of the country. I am getting a crash course in Instagram, Twitter and website platforms. I feel like the kid in grade school who is still working on multiplication tables (do they still use those?) while all the other kids are subtracting decimals and dividing fractions.

I am over-the-moon grateful for the outpouring of support you've shown for me and for Decide Happy. I am humbled by your heartfelt good wishes. I feel a responsibility to you to bring my best, to write a Little Bit of Happy blog that's smart, relatable, helpful and, well... perfect. So, after prolonged griping to Tim, my cute and candid husband, about how overwhelmed I was- he looked up, eyebrow quirked, and asked, "Aren't you writing a book about happiness?"

"Yes" I grumped, "I KNOW what to do to be happier, I just don't WANT to!"

Sometimes it's just easier to whine.

But eventually I got tired of my grumpy self, so I opened up the draft of "Decide Happy" to remind myself to DO what I KNOW. I re-read the forthcoming chapter "Be Gentle with Yourself," and my definition of happiness for the book and for my life:

"The world needs us to be our most loving, calm, moving forward, contributing best."

And I remembered that we don't have to know it all.

We don't need to be the expert at everything.

It doesn't have to all be done at once.

We can:

1. Take one step at a time

2. Focus on what we're really good at and offload the rest

3. Go for progress over perfect

So, here it is, my friend. My very first Decide Happy Blog post that I did all by myself- with all of it's imperfections. Short on sleek, but long on heart.

Imagine what we could do, who we could be, if we lived every day by these three simple, elegant habits.

How we live our days is how we live our lives.

Be Gentle with Yourself.



"Optimists focus on the place they are going.

Pessimists focus on the obstacles along the way.

To become an optimist, simply look ahead."

-Simon Sinek

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Jan 15, 2022

So true. Thanks for sharing. Tim’s reality check reminded me of a funny story my mother told me when she asked my father who was reading a book late at night in bed and my mother wanted to finally go to sleep and turn off the light. My father wanted to keep on reading. The conversation escalated into an argument and my mother finally said to the effect what book is so important you can’t put it down and go to sleep and my father said it was called “How to Win Friends and Influence People”! After that they both fell out laughing!


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